I think the whipping with a single-tail BDSM whip (bullwhips, snake whips, and signal whips) is definitely Advanced BDSM. It's hard to injure someone with a flog, but it's easy to accidentally lacerate someone with a whip.
So, my [M34] SO [F33] told me she's into BDSM and we've experimented a little.
Apparently, she wants to be dominated and a part of this is apparently me spanking her, flogging her and whipping her.
But I'm really to inexperienced to know how to start and what to do and when/how to end. We've tried discussing it, but as she is also inexperienced we are both afraid of making some bad first time sessions.
In my mind I would expect that everything starts with warming up; starting out light and then you can maybe slap/flog harder. But starting also seems awkward to me; should I ask her to be on all four, get over my knee, should she be standing? All I have is some bad references from porn, and it seems like the setting and mood always is implicit.
Secondly, progressing with whatever spanking/flogging/whipping - should I ask if she wants it harder? To me it seems I stop being dominating and start getting approval during the session (but maybe that doesn't matter)?
And how will I know when/if she's had enough? We talked about a safe word, but then she would only use it after I went too far, so that doesn't seem like a good solution.
If it has any relevance she's into verbal abuse (being called dirty slut, cum whore, **** hungry ****, etc) - I don't know if that is to be incorporated during the spanking - the porn references I've seen are usually pretty silent (other than the moaning and the sound from the whips/flogs).
